All I can say is never take anything for granted. I say this because I happened to take the one thing in my life that ment everything to me for granted and it snapped on me. Why did I do it? I dont know for sure but what I do know is it's not because I did not know what I had.


Last night I went to bed without getting to kiss my wife and daughter. The only things that were going through my mind were/are that every night I get my daughters night clothes together and make her chocolate milk. Then she gets out of the bath and either runs into the livingroom to me or is carried by her mother. Sometimes I get her dressed, sometimes her mom does but we all sit together in the livingroom while she drinks her milk.


Then she gets up......."I'm ready for bed" well give your daddy lovin....and she comes over; hugs and kisses me "I love you daddy". I didn't get that lastnight because I am to self absorbed to realize that I make no effort to let her and her mommy know that I am thrilled everyday to be with them.


I also lost what I feel is my best freind all because I lost what it means to be my wifes best freind. I stopped cutting up with her, stopped laughing with her. Never did my love for her fade but for some stupid reason I feel as if I have to be Mr. Serious, and I dont get it. Thats not me, it never has been. I have allways been the lighthearted, joke around, make others life better person untill reacently.


I dont know what will happen, I love my family, love every aspect of being married to the person that I am and love every part of the day I spend with my daughter. This is the hardest thing I have ever been through. Never have I ever felt so helpless in the matter. But the one thing I do know is that if I do get another chance to show those who are important to me how much I care then I am not going to hold back and be a stick in the mud. If I dont get another chance then I will have to take this and learn all that I can from it. I have not and will never give up on my marrige but I am not wanting anyone to be unhappy for the sake of me being with them.

 

good, solid advice there.

I don't know exactly what's going on, nor do I need to know, but I hope everything works out for you

 

I stopped about 6 months ago showing my wife how much she ment to me, closed down, and started being to serious all the time. I did not take into affect what my actions did to her and our relationship. We are on the verge of divorce even though she is my world and I can do nothing but hope she knows that I have changed for the better.

 

Well... Best of luck to you.

I don't really know what to tell you other than try to prove to her that you've changed, but don't be overbearing and suffocating. Maybe take her on a date to wherever you two had your first date? Women tend to hold sentimental memories (like first dates) very closely. I really don't know what else to tell you... I'm sure you already know, but you can't really prove you've changed overnight... but every little thing helps.

Like I said, good luck and I hope everything works out for the best.

 

Thankyou

 

If you haven't already done so, begin to express the sentiments written in your posts to your wife. Tell her that you now understand her anger/disappointment in you and how you plan to change behaviors that created the problem. The bottom line is talk as much as possible and make it clear to her how important she and your daughter are to you. Best of luck.

 

Oh I have been. I am not going to lie I cant help but crying like a little girl when I talk to her. We are supposed to meet up tomarro and talk. She said she would think between now and then about letting me come back so there is some hope. I now just have to keep from getting my hopes up incase of her deciding us splitting up is the right thing.

 

well all i can say is that women are the best things that have ever happended to us men so i try and shower my wife with love and respect....but i also try and be funny and joking when the time is present

 

Great advice man, will remember it when i get married.

 

Good luck dude, it must be hard.