Yeah, I know this post is kind of juvenile. But yeah. So all you lady savvy guys out there. I need some advice.
So this girl that I have been with for about two years is. Well. Mean. She's a bitch. But she's only recentley been like this. I had been with her long enough to really form a place for her, and I really do care about her alot. And obviously don't want to hurt her. But she's being absolutley ridiculous, and has this clever way of turning things around on me. I was able to get cursed at for getting her flowers and buying dinner for her. Pretty amazing, huh? Like a magic trick.
I love her family, and everyone around her. And I really feel for her, too. But I don't know.
Should I cut my losses, and get rid of her? Try to salvage something? take the abuse? What should I do?
Oh yeah. And she doesn't support my car modding X(
If there is one thing i learned, it is that if you are getting treated as less than you should, leave. You dont deserve it and there is someone out there that will treat you better.
However, I'm not necessarily saying pack up and leave. You obviously care for her, i know what that is like. Is she open to conversation, or take criticism well? can you talk to her about anything? My suggestion would be try to find out what is really bothering her. Seems to me there is something underneath that is getting at her and she is taking it out on you. Probe around a bit and see if you can find what is bothering her. Women tend to keep things inside more than men do usually, create enough pressure from a plugged hole here and the bottle will start to leak out another side ya know?
ladies on the forum dont get me wrong, i'm not saying anything against you haha
it just seems to me that there is something else behind there, in no way do you deserve to be treated bad, but before you sever the ties and pack the bags, consider digging around the foundation to see if you can find a hole in the basement wall.
+1.... if she won't talk about it, the problem won't get fixed, and she'll keep acting the way she's acting.
Personally, I'd try to talk to her and work things out, but don't take it too far... unless you've done something seriously wrong to make her act like this, she's bringing it upon herself.
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Your best bet is when everything is nice and calm (hopefully it is sometimes) ask her nicely what has been going on. Be sure to ensure her that you are willing to try your hardest to help with what is troubling her. Hopefully she will clue you into the "you know what you did wrong bs."
I speak from experience that this could also mean that she might be cheating on you. The girl can't bring herself to dump you because she cares about you (yet doesn't really show it by her actions). So she does the next best thing, try to get you to dump her by being a psycho.
Good luck bro!
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well its always your choice....... no one can really advise you what to do because we dont know everything and never will.
hell i havent had a GF in 5years ive been done so wrong its not high on my priority at all anymore. times are definatly changed and its hard to find a good women or a good CLEAN women.LOL but im sure women say the same thing about men...
sure it sucks without a women sometimes but when ya got friends and something to do you keep your mind off it!
life goes on......
its all in your hands. sit down talk to her about it and if ya cannt work it out. just say F it.... sometimes your better off alone... ya keep more money and your sanity.
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I had a bitch that acted the same way, I was with her for over a year. She treated me like **** and I let her, finally we broke up and I am happy it happened now. Get rid of her, there are plenty of other girls that will treat you better.
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Honestly, if you would want to buy a modded civic with all the work done for you. I pity you, thats no Honda Enthusiast.
Yeah, it bad news for you if shes getting pissed by random acts of thoughtfulness. Like Dano said, she might be cheating on you. If it isn't working out, try to beat her to the punch by breaking up with her before she says its over.
IDK if that last part means much but I have a pretty competitive spirit, and I like to feel like I was the winner at the end of the relationship when things go south. Plus it just plain sucks to be broken up with.
Advice on the ladies.
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