Finding the balance
 

So i was talking to my girlfriend who just moved to thailand, and suddenly she got real quiet, and just like stopped talking... asked her what was wrong... a friend from home (back in canada) told her that 2 of the friends from their group died in a car accident tonight... i felt really sorry. i didnt know what to say... then i asked how... they were at a bar, got drunk, hopped in a car with a drunk driver, ran a red light and got hit by a bus... added another set of feelings... obviously i didnt want to be insensitive so i just did my best to comfort her... but drunk drivers really strike a bad chord with me... its hard to find a balance of what to say and what not to say... its hard to find any words to say really when a girl you love is shocked like that... i did my best just to let her know i'm here (even if it is around the globe)... how would you approach that?

RE: Finding the balance
 

You did the right thing. Be there for your girl even if only in spirit. You can always voice your opinions about drunk drivers or whatever after the emotions have settled down. If she knows you well enough , she prolly already knows your feelings about assholes who think they are invinceable and above the law. Bring it up later. You did good


SMOKEM

RE: Finding the balance
 

Nothing really you can do if you arnt by her, you did the best you could to try and calm her down. Go see her, then shell be happy :)

RE: Finding the balance
 

man if i didnt have school i'd be there right now.... but i gotta wait til spring break... march 23rd-april 4th... yeah i found the article online about it... http://www.canada.com/montrealgazett...8f&k=75651

i feel so powerless to do anything, but i will always be there for her, even when i cant be physically right next to her... and i know she is taking it hard

RE: Finding the balance
 

I feel the same way about drunk drivers. It would be even worse if they had killed someone else.

RE: Finding the balance
 

try to make her feel better and then later bash on other drunk drivers

RE: Finding the balance
 

yeah i dont plan on bringing it up anytime soon... not worth it, i just want to be there for her