My grandma's house burnt down in Janurary now her diabetes has effected her legs and one leg maybe two has to be amputated.My parents are in S.C. at the hospital she has a bad heart so they may just leave them and let the infection slowly kill her.My gransfather died a couple years ago so I wish she would just pass on.I am tired of hearing and thinking about it I just don't want to talk to my family and just keep working and leaving life.I was just curious on what others have done to deal with this.It doesn't feel it effects me much like i wish to just forget it a focus on myself.I don't want people to tell me there sorry and hope she get s better.I just need some advice on how for me to mental get through it.Thanks nate

 

nate i lost my mom in 2002 her heart failed and she had a living will. but her regular doctor was out of town and the doctor on duty tried for 15 minutes to get her back.so the result was she only had 2% of her brain function left we had 4 neurologist come in and check her and in that time her brain function went to 1%. so me and dad had to decide to take her of life supportand we had to watch her die over a week it was the hardest thing i have ever done. and after she died i thought i was going to be ok but i was wrong i went off the deep end. your never ready for it and i know what you are talking about sometimes they might be better off leaving this world so they won't suffer anymore. but i hope and pray everything works out for you and your family

 

Damn Nate, i only hope for the best for you and your family, I know what it is like to lose a family member, but i have never been extremely close to alot of people. So honestly i don't have much advise for you, the only thing i can realy say is if you do lose her(god forbid) Try not to morn the lose of a love one or familymember, just be glad that people like them exist.

 

Keep your chin up. Dont feel bad if if your not falling apart. Some people are just built harder than others. I know I am not one to cry at funerals or when someone is dying. It is not a fault, or a plus, It just is. As far as getting through it, just do it one day at a time. Tell yourself that just today you not gonna freak over it. Then tomorrow repeat. Works for me everytime. Try to keep busy, and spend time with people that can make you laugh. Laughing even if you feel like crying will help you. Just stay strong, and know that no matter what it will get better. It wont go away, but it will hurt less as time goes by.

 

Nate: I live with and take care of my 90 year old mother. She is yet in fair shape, but it takes a large part of my time. In this area we have an organization called Alternatives for Older Adults (AOA) whichhassupport groups for caregivers. I have found it to be of great help because everyone in the room is going through similar problems to me. We share problems and solutions and work through grief. If you know of no such group in your area contact The Alzheimers Association. They might be able to point you to some help.

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My grandfather died in a train incident along time ago... never got to meet him ... So take the time and recognize your grandmother and all the goodtimes you've had! I wish you the best of luck to you brotha and i'm sorry to hear it.

 

Just a little update they still are running test on her and have her on meds.I was sleeping today cause I work nights and the phone rings it's my grandmother calling from icu looking for my mother which is in S.C. at the hospital with her luckly the answer maching picked up.The good thing is I am puting in alot of hours at work so I have little time and sit a dwell.THANKS EVERYONE for you support through this troubling time.

 

keep your chin up bro we are here for you

 

I almost lost my father in a motocross accident when I wasabout 14a few years ago. The whole family took it hard as he was the soul provider, and he was in hospital for months. Moral of the story is, unfortunatly, death is the only thing that is certan in out lives and yet, it is something that we can never grow to not be affected by. Nothing anyone here or anywhere can say is going to be able to take the pain away of losing a loved one. You just need to accept it as a fact of life, move on and not let something that you cant change get you down. I am not saying not to mourn, but you just have to remember that life goes on. Keep strong mate.