Ok, my friend called me this morning around 8 and told me that another one of my friends has been up all night doing coke with his girlfriend. Im so pissed off because he told me a month or 2 ago that he was completely done with all drugs except weed. In all honesty he is a different person since i started to hang out with him a couple of years back. He always did weed but when he went to the air force he couldnt do it anymore so he started to coriseedin (sorry i dont know how to spell it) and when he got booted out a year back he started doing coriseedin alot. In fact there were sometimes where he would do it everyday for weeks at a time. I tried to get him to stop but he did it anyway. I think that crap ate a hole in his brain cause like i said he is a different person now. And he didnt stop at that, i know he did x and shrooms and he could of did more without my knowledge cause hes like that. I dont know what to do. I am going to call him later today and talk to him about it. All an all im about completely done with him, i haven't even hung out with him in a while because the last time we hung out with a bunch of other friends he was annoying the living hell out of me. What should i do about this? Ive never been in this kinda situation and all i can think of his telling him hes an idiot and to not ever come near me again but i hate being an a$$hold like that. I need some good advice.

 

well, he probably needs you as a friend now more than ever. Talk with him about the drugs and give him some info on what cocaine does to the body and mind, look it up, you'll **** yourself. If he doesnt want to help himself its because of the drugs. People use them as a clutch to deal with problems and a lot of times they'll start believe their own lies. Cocaine is an evil drug, some people can do it recreationally, others lose everything theyve ever had for it. Its not all glitzy and cool like tv or the movies make it seem. Your friend is not the same because of the drugs and the lifestyle that they bring with them. When someone is coming down off of a cocaine high they are usually very confrontational about everything. All you can do is talk to him and let him know whats up, like I said look up some info on the drugs....

good luck.

 

I work alot with young kids and people my age dealing with Drug and Alcohol.It sounds like he does have a problem if its screwing up his life Airforce and such.I myself would talk with him and say, hey I am going to cut you off from being my friend till you get help,like they do on that show intervention it also sounds like he is going to need to be shook up like the police or by a od or something its sad to say.You can also look in your phone book in your area and look for AA or Na which there are plenty of people every age there to lend a hand to him and can give you some really good advice also. call em

 

cloricedins are frickin crazy... i've done that **** before. i've also done coke, shrooms, and x but i've never been addicted to any of it. the only thing that will help him is either forcing him into rehab or watching him get arrested... anything else won't wake him up. trust me. even after rehab if he hangs out with people that do it (his g/f) then he will just start doing it again. the only thing that can change him is him. i know i quit hanging out with all of my druggie friends b/c they get on my nerves and i don't do anything anymore. my advice would be quit hanging out with him until he quits doing ****.

 

drugs are bad.... mmmk.

 

First, Id like to tell you that it makes me very happy that not only are you not pressured into doing drugs because your friend does them, but that you also want to talk to him about quitting. That can be hard. I have a 22 year old brother, who I havent talked to in months. He started smoking weed, then poppin some pills, and then he tried coke. He did coke for a while, and that turned into crystal meth. Hes been doing it since he was like 18. He has been in and out of jail, and went to prison for a year last year. My parents thought that since he had been in there for so long, maybe it had killed the addiction, and gave him another chance to live with us. Not even 3 weeks after he came home, he went to his old girlfriends house, and started using again with her. I didnt even know. I picked him up one day, and got pulled over, and the cop saw that my brother had a record, and did sobriety tests on both of us. He failed, and went to jail. We thought we could help him change, but he still hasnt been ready. When your friend is ready to change, thats when hes gonna be able to do it. Not because someone else wants him to change. Im sure its not easy for my brother to talk to my mom. He knows that his whole family wants him to change, but hes not going to until he wants to. Good luck with helping your friend, hopefully you showing your concern will give him a little wake up call.

 

Amanda beat me to it.

You can not force someone to quit something (permanently) that they don't want to. It's true from alcohol, to cigarettes to coke to any other addiction.

So, step one is to make him WANT to quit. I don't know how you can do this, or even if you can, but start with that. Tell him whatever he needs to hear.

Good luck man. It's important for your friend to have friends who care, if he's gonna get through this.

(edit: now in spell-checked flavour!)

 

If you do something everyday or in certain situitions it becomes a addiction.I hang with this friend we do drugs so when were together we do that.Or after I eat I smoke a cig.So if i want to change this I have to put something in place of that.Like my car or exercise or friends that do cool other things.Then I start to cange my habits or what I am custom to doing.I also need something to modovate or make me do this.Parents kick me out,Girlfriend will leave me,but best of all so i dont end up dead in jail or in a mental word.

 

Get him locked up, thats the only way hell get straightened out.

 

Thanks everyone for all the helpful advice, I was just about to just quit being his friend but I now realize that he needs some help and hopefully he will realize that it pains me to see him on drugs and he will clean up his act. I just hope he makes it easy for me to bring this all out and doesn't lass out on me. Then i need to go to his girlfriends work place and punch her in the baby maker.