yes. well i am kinda been down and stressted out for the pas week or so. yes alot of poeple don't know me that well on here so bare with me. it starts off with the civic, i have been trying to find a good motor for about 3 weeks. three fully modded blocks have gotten thought my fingers. then we have the x- soon to be wife( yes at the age of 18 i was going ot get married) < never do that> she was trying to get back with me. at first i didn't want to. then i notice she changed, then i break up with me girl to be with her. then i noticed in a bad way she didn't change. so i am know with my girl again but not going ot well. my firends are kinda pissed off at me no idea why. and now i have to move out and move in with my grandma and take care of her. that means i can't go to collage for another year. so that is 2 years off of school. i am only 18 in tell april. i am so stressed out right now. thanks 4 listen. it helps.

mike

 

Hey Mike,

Wow it sounds like your having one of my weeks! I know what it feels like when everything seems to be coming down on you at once. It will get better and the positive to all of this is that you will become stronger and wiser. The marriage thing look at it this way at least you learned before the marriage instead after. It's very admirable that you are going to take care of you grandma a lot of people wouldn't. Know that you don't have to do it all by yourself... ask other family member if they are around... if not there are many groups that can help out. Anytime you are having a bad day or need to vent feel free to do it here. These guys and gals have been wonderful to me through my tough times... We all have things going on in our lives... sometimes good and sometimes bad.... and sometimes it just helps to get them out to people who you know will be unbiased. Good luck with everything.... and you know where to find us if you need to talk to anyone.

 

i had some hard years between moving out on my own, and getting married about 3 1/2 years later. it gets tough sometimes, but trust me, it gets better. do you have at least one friend you can count on? i lived with my brother, so except for a few scuffles, i had him to back me up. you know you can always come here for support. let us know if you need anything, or PM me if you need to get anything off your chest.

 

well, the thing with my grandma is that eveyone wants to put her in a home, i can't let that happen, just becuase i don't trust them. but there is a good thing about it. i get the house. it is a 2 bedroom, full paid for house. up stair and basement. but that is not why i am doing this. i love my family and i am very close to my family so it is hard to see her dieing but i have ot be there 4 her. i hope u guys understand were i am coming form on tthis one. i don't know what to do, i am not getting many hours at work. but my mom is going to give me money for food and the bills for the house in tell u know she passes. but i have no ride. the civic is still in the shop. and i just sold the beater( purple saturn) so i quess i am have a bad week i hope this get better soon. thnaks for helping.

 

just remember...when it feels like you're as low as you can get, the only way you have to go is up.

i went through something like that last year...all my friends vandalized my house and car and stopped tlaking to me, i went through about 4 girlfriends in as many months...it just plain sucked. now i really dont have any real friends who are guys...just friends who are girls. and it sucks cuz i need my 'hang with the dudes' time...but unfortuanately most guys at my school hate me. i only have 3-6 guy friends who i actually talk to outside of school

it gets better over time tho. just look at the positives all the time.

 

hey yo.... ur only 18 one step at a time man...im 18 too soo i know how u feel about things though...


ive had 2 full blown stock civics with under 75k slip through my fingers for less then 2000 dollars...but i couldnt help that....my parents are jerks..my suggestion to u is find a job..start a checking account..and save..dont spend..that way when u get to college here soon u will be able to have money to pay back loans..and build up ur credit better....

as for the getting married..ur too young from my stand point....theres soo many girls out there..girls u have never met...why settle for something when there could be someone else out there better for u..

good luck in the future..and if u every wanna vent...feel free to email me... my_hidden_romance@excite.com

that goes for anyone that reads this too..haha email me....im lonely!...

later jon

 

well i have a good group of friends to count on. but i have 2 best friends i should say. one i have know since i was 2 but he left for the navy. so i have pople to fall back on. and i just want to say u guys are great already. < look getting better already.i just hope this down time gos by fast. but the friends are kinda mad right now expect for ryan ( the one in the navy) so i don't know, i just want this motor i am looking at getting. it is on ebay though the only bad thing about it. here it is. now don't go and buy this under me i swaer that is the last thing i need. let ne know what u guys think.

ebay link

remmy's note: that link was stretching the page so I fixed it.

 

Mad props on gettin' out of that! Hope it all works out with your current girl! And don't worry 'bout your friends...If they're not gonna inform you as to what their problem is, either go to them or let them get over it. Having female friends isn't that bad though! They can help you with your problems more um...diplomatically...than your male friends idea to drink it away! And like Fran said, we're all here for ya! Hang in there!
Pee-Eye-Em-Pee!!!! I went through the same thing. Except I wasn't liked cuz I wasn't gonna go out and do stupid sh*t with them. The one time I did...Well...

That was me and 3 male friends inside stuck under water. That's why I don't do stupid sh*t anymore, and that's why I'm not liked! Oh well, screw 'em!

 

dont worry man, we all have bad days...i had a couple of bad days the other week when me and my girl of almost 3 years broke up, kinda happy it happend tho..needed a brake from all that relationship stuff...just keep your head up and im sure things will work out, its nice that your there for your grandma like that

 

thanks guys, for the help, i am feeling a little better. this has to do with the turn of luck. well i went to the shop. and i gave them the coilovers i went them to put in, well turns out i get rip on for buying them. they are a no name brand. but i told him i bought these becuase i need new springs and these were only 50 bucks of a friend, so i told him to put them in, so he is doing that right now. being droped 2 inches, then i picked up a front mount intercooler for 100 bucks( off of a srt-4), i gave him 100 beucase it is a very close friend and he is behind on bills and he will not take money for poeple so i offered high. then on of the guys at the shop find a decent motor to swap in, so he is going to look at that today. o and the good news just keep coming. it turns out the head on the bad motor is still good, ( thinking of saleing it(d16y8 head)) so know i am happy that everthing is going good, then my girl comes over and we work everthing out, and then comes the MAKE-UP SEX. i am having a GREAT DAY