depressed? i have been somewhat depressed for the last 3 weeks i think. basically, i hate the way i look. i went from 225 to 175lbs but still don't look good so i'm trying to gain muscle but progress is so slow. also, just becuase of genetics i carry any of the fat i have on my chest, so it makes me feel like **** about myself. theres alot of good stuff in my life, i have alot of toys, a great job, parents aren't divorced no extra stress from any where. its just i always feel depressed becuase of my imagine, my face is fine, i think, its just the upper body. i haven't had a G/F in a long time becuase i have no self esteem and would never take my shirt off in front of her. and it soundswierd but it really bugs me to hear stories about my buds and there G/F's, having sex and what not becuase i feel like such a loser without a G/F.

anybody else like me?

 

Im sorry to hear that man. You might wanna try counseling. Sounds like you are fine, just not confidence with the ladies. You have to forget about everything and just grab the opportunity when you can get it. If a girl rejects you, then she rejects you, oh well. Not every time you will win in life, sometimes your gonna fail. Just make sure when you fail, you dont stay down, you gotta rebound. There are lots of girls out there who wouldnt really care about your weight. But how can you find them if you dont even take in iniative to go look for them. Dont give up a good opportutnity to finally find someone because you dont have the confidence to go up to her and talk to her.

Relax and Enjoy life one day at a time bro, and you will fine find the peace you are looking for

 

I wish I had a little fat on my chest.. I'm so bony that when I get hit in the chest..I thud. Seriously, I'm 5'8" and weight 110. I work out a lot and am in pretty good shape and have a bit of definition, but I have some screwed up ligiments in my collar bone that cause it to dislocate when I try to bench press or do push ups...so I have a really weak chest. I really hate the way I'm built too but I managed to find a girl that in my opinion is pretty smoking. Why would you need to take your shirt off in front of a woman anyhow? If you're that embarassed about it, make a joke about it and she'll think its cute.

 

you could maybe do flyes.....just saying

and i would take a flat chest anyday over man *****.

and make a joke she'll think its funny, wtf? and i would take my shirt off if we were having sex, or is it common to leave shirt on?

 

^ lol I hate having to point this out but the shirt is usually the first thing that comes off. If she is your g/f then she isn't going to care if you are a little flabby, it isn't going to be a surprise to her since weather you have your shirt on or not I'm sure she knows you don't have a six pack. I hate to put it that bluntly but that is how it is. Honeslty it isn't anything to worry about and yea making a joke about it is a good idea, it is what I do about things I am unsecure about. If you want a girl they really aren't hard to get, as long as you are nice to them and don't smell bad you can get one. Just go talk to some girls, get to know them a little and if you turn out to start liking them ask them to go to dinner or a movie with you, worse thing they can say is no, it isn't a big deal. As for the depressed thing, look down the page on the off topic forum and there is one about it from recently, there is about 3-5 pages of responces and a lot of us feel the same way a lot.

 

Most girls like runners bodies man dont give up hope. Ask her out, you got nothing to lose. Its all a head game, as long as you can act confident, it doesn't matter if you really are. Trust me the hardest part of talking to anyone is the feeling you have before you get the guts to talk to them. Also, for a girl to expect a guy to have a six pack is just rediculous. The funny thing abut feeling insecure is that most of the time you don't have enything to worry about, just some unrealistic image you have stuck in your mind.

If you want to make it a little easier, have a buddy peer pressure you into talking to her. It worked wonders for me, haha. Nothing says confidence like your best friend callin you a b**** for not talking to that girl you like.



PS: 175 is a really good weight to be at. I'm 6' and weigh 180 lbs, to give you perspective.

 

B Man, I get depressed, and I HAVE a gf. My depression is more "external" though. It revolves more around how I perceive this planet going to hell in a hand-basket. I don't care how women, or anybody else, see me (too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, etc), as most of them seem shallow and self-centered these days anyway. Maybe it's just westernized people though. I dunno. We, as a society, seem too arrogant for our own good...to me, at least.

Why worry how others perceive you? None of them are perfect either. They may just be trying to control/manipulate you through exploiting your self-esteem issues. If you look hard enough, you'll find that NONE of them are perfect either. They may just be doing more to cover things up.

 

well lets put it this way we are all gods children ,but when it came to me he must havent been paying much attention since i came out wrong. lol im kidding.

actually turns out that for a couple of years 2-3 infact i got depressed about myself and became very unsocial wanting to find a g/f ,my figure and so on. i just kept trying to perfect my self in areas i felt weak, and being patient trying to find a spouse, turns out that my wait was long enough i found the love of my life about 2 years ago, and i treat every day as if it was the first time i saw her.

the point im trying to say is keep your head up, and good things happen to good people, especially things cant get as bad as you feel now and theres always someone out there that is in a worse position so my words of wisdom is make a new friend everyday say hello to someone new who may spark your interest you never know if there the one.

 

If you're to the point of taking your shirt off in front of her then you dont have anything to worry about any more. Thats what I was getting at..

 

+1 good point there.....