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Chances are he won't stop until he's arrested

 

yes! "Wham! right in the baby-maker!" "Right in the mommy/daddy button!"

BTW-sounds like you're on the right track. good luck. i know this kinda thing can be really hard. Just last week a kid that I went to school with died in a car wreck. Everyones pretty sure he was high. He did weed, coke, X... all that crap. Its a shame to see someone die... just because of drugs. Get to him before something stupid happens, thats my advice.

 

Ok i called him a little bit ago and this is what he told me. Last night was the first time doing it but the way he worded it to me is that he is going to do it once in a while. I played the caring friend card saying that i care for him very deeply and i dont want to see him doing that stuff. I think he was working with his dad so he didn't want to talk about it over the phone. Hes going to call me later today and we are going to talk about it personally and im bringing a couple more friends with me so we can talk about it. The thing is though, which my other friend just brought up to me a minute ago, is that why is his case so important to bring up an intervention when I barely ever said anything when him and three of my other buddies got high all summer. I hung out with them and being the only sober one ever I did mention that they needed to stop once in a while but they blew me off every single time. The friends im bring with me are the ones that did that stuff with him all summer but they are all almost off that stuff. I just feel like hes going to bring up why didnt you ever bring it up before and try to make me seem like the bad guy when im trying to help him. He will probably bring up that why should i care when i dont hang out with as much anymore. Arggggg im so confused.

 

Well, do you know why it matters with this friend, but it didn't matter as much with the others? Is there a reason for it? Maybe the fact that your other buddies are getting off but this friend in particular isn't is the problem? My suggestion is to try to figure that out, and then just tell him the truth.

 

i had the same problem about 2 weeks ago. so i know what your going through man.

sad but true.... drugs are his new friend now. not you. if he is like the girl i knew... he'll run through a barrage of bullets for a hit of crack instead of watch the game with his real friend.

what did i do? just dont talk to that person cause it can wind you up in some truble... but keep praying for him.

 

Well little black hatch i truely regret not getting more serious with the talks when my other buddies where doing that stuff, i guess the reason i see its more serious with the one that did coke is cause he has a very additive personality. I dont want to see him being a huge addict in the future. They all quit but for some dumb reason hes back with drugs but stepped it up a bunch of levels. dj_ipirate i hope your friend quits i truely do.

 

Then tell him that. I would probably leave out the part where you think he has an addictive personality. Just tell him you regret not talking to your friends, and are more worried about him because of the escalation in his use.

Also, one more thing to keep in mind that I've learned from working with people. When you are talking to someone about a problem (and this works for any kind of problem, from the mundane to the serious) it is best to use "I" statements, not "You" statements. Like: "I am worried about... blah blah blah" Instead of "You need to quit... blah blah blah." "You" statements can come across as more attacking, and can make people more defensive. When you finally do have a talk with him, do your best to express to him the effects of his problem on everyone else, and perhaps his future.

I really hope this helps you. Good luck man.

 

the "I" statement thing is true, heed this advice man, and good luck to ya

 

I am not into any drug but it seems like it to me that coke is a pretty violent one I had a friend sold it and got his door kicked in then shot and beat to dealth he lived a block from me.Another friend got killed last year arguing over it got stabed in the chest.It was there own fault though same thing people told them to stop.So good luck.

 

Ha it is funny to see that someone used the quote that i posted earlier...


But on a serious matter, like LBH said before use the "I" references and not the "you" ones.. cause when someone is addicted to something, they decide to become addicted, when you decide to do something once that is your first step, and then they either stop there or keep walking further into the "land of dispair". and like stated before, people realize that they need to stop on their own.. but sometimes it is too late and they have lost everything that is important to them... i hope that you can make him realise that if he keeps doing these thing that he could be the one that has lost everything that is deer and loved to him... from his friends to his family, his job, even his life. All because he wanted to "feel good"

i hope things turn out for the best with your friend... as i know all to well how it feels to see a friend in pain