well friday me and my stepson had a big argument over something stupid he wanted to go to a football game and i said no because his grades are allready getting bad and all hell broke lose .i mean i don't understand this i give him everything i can i'm not an ******* and i do without so he and my wife can have things .so my marriage of 5 years might be down the drain .this is what happened he came home from school and asked if he could go to a football game i said no because of bad grades he started cursing me f this and f that so i told him not to cuss and he was like f no so i said listen this is my house and you will do what i say but he just kept on and on untill i treatened to call the police and he still went on and on and after i threatened to call the police my wife started on me and for what saying he can't go to a damn game .he says i bitch about everything well i think i have the right to about some things .i pay his cell phone have food on the table a roof over there heads and i'm not like some of these stepfathers that drink all the time cuss, beat ,raise hell all the time so i'm like wtf can i do. since friday me and my wife has slept in differant rooms my stepson is at his grandmothers and me and sherrie got into it last night . sorry for the rant but i'm at the end of my rope i mean you treat someone that good and you get this in return . i just don't want to try anymore ive done everything in my power for them. so i think when he comes home for grandmothers we are all having a talk and as far as i'm concerned if he cannot abide by my rules witch arn't that bad he can go live with his grandmother and if sherrie doesn't like it we might have to separate. i mean like i said ive done everything i can so whats left

 

Stand your ground, you give somebody a inch and they will take a foot, give somebody a yard and they will take a mile. This is the hard truth about people.

 

its a good thing u wana talk it over with both of them. i think u should try to talk to ur wife alone and tell her what u think about the situation and wut u want to do. that way she can tell her son wuts gena happen. that way u wont have to deal with ur stepson, telling him wut to do and wut not to do because then he might go off again. just seems like it would be better for his mom to talk to him. good luck man.

 

Honestly just tell youre wife the trust. You want whats best for the kid, and he doesnt appreciate **** from you. You work hard to provide him with things and he takes them for granted........and youre getting fed up with it. Totally understandable. Tell her he needs to start acting a little more mature, and learning that he needs to give a little to get a little. He needs to work for some things, whether it be working hard in school, or getting his *** a job and paying for his own $hit.

 

definatly stand your ground, but be forgiving at the same time. forgivness can go a long way

 

Parents shouldn't undermine each other when it comes to making decisions with their kids. Doing so just shows complete disrespect for the other parent. The kid sounds spoiled, and doesn't realize how bad he could have it. Whatever happens, at least you know you did what you could. Hopefully you find some comfort in that. Like Marty said, stand your ground. That threesome isn't gonna work without respect, real respect, not just putting up with you for your financial support.

 

yeah, i would definately talk it over with your wife....it's funny, because this reminds me of a time when i was arguing with my mom ALOT in the past....same thing too, she threatened to call the police on me and have me live with my dad instead for the rest of my life...

It got so bad that we could not even talk once without yelling at eat other, and I actually almost ran away from home cuz I was so pissed. But seriously, it was just a phase, and funny thing is that my mom and I are like best friends now.

Stick with it....i'm not sure how old your son is, but he'll get past it. I wouldn't call the cops on him though, because in the end he's just gonna resent it or it'll fuel his anger towards you. Don't take it to the extreme like that...if my mom ever called the police on me or kicked me out of the house, it probably would have been totally different....

It'll get better in the future though...just stick with it, stand your ground, but dont go to the extremes. maybe take a chance to hear your son out as well, maybe compromise, but dont just give in...i'm guessing your son doesnt understand why you are making the decisions that you do...all he can see is that you are not letting him do this, not letting him do that, etc. He doesn't see the big picture.

I wish you good luck though. Hope everything works out for you

 

Darryl, i say talk to your wife, about the situation, since he wont listen to you, cause your technically not his real father, and a lot of the time kids wont listen to their stepparents. so speak to your wife, and have her talk to him, then the three of you can have on big talk. make him understand that without you he wouldn't have ****. i mean your his stepfather, and if you wanted to you wouldn't have to do anyhting for him, or give him anything... but your not like that, you pay for things for him, give him a house to live in, and don't really ask for anything in return other then respect... i honestly think that he has it good right now, and is taking it all for granted.. he needs to understand that,

 

I'm just a kid so I really can't give any advice...but I can say I hope everything works out for the best for all of you, and maybe your stepson at his grandmothers will be best.....when you guys talk though every mom is going to protect her son so don't attack him or you'll upset her, and then it'll start a war. If yall have gone five years together an argument should not tear apart y'alls relationship, just listen to what they have to say, and then when its your turn tell them how you feel. Hopefully in the end the family will be back together, and your stepson will realize that he has a great stepdad instead of a man thats against him.....

 

hope everything works out peg