i think an equal amount of time spent with both are good. a friend of mine has been going out with this girl for a few months and their with eachother alllllllllllll the time. the thing that makes me mad most is when he plans something with me and my friends a few days ahead and then ditches us last minute to spend even more time with his gf..

 

It's amazing how true this is, and, like Remmy, is one of the major reasons I broke up with my fiancee a few months ago. It's sad, but it's the way things are.

 

it all depends on the situation. if i had been spending a lot of time with the guys and not much with her, id go with her any day. but if i had been spending a lot of time with her and not much with the guys, id go with them.

 

i'm about to be engaged with my g/f. i work at verizon during the day and she works at outback at night. she hangs out with me at work and on weekends and i hang out with my friends while she works. i would never ditch my friends to hang out with her just like i would never ditch her to hang out with my friends. its a perfect balance and there is no animosity. that's the way i like it.

 

EXACTLY. if i make plans or have a special time for the guys, im never going to blow them off for her, same goes for her. if we have a set time to be together, id never blow her off for them.

 

hmm well to be honest, my girl means the world to me. but there are those times when i wish i could go out with my friends. but considering my girl moved from new york to cali just to be with me, i choose to hang out with her most of the time. and we have been happy for over a year now.

 

life's short. party like it's 1999, er, 2099...

 

I'd say it's definitely situation-dependent. Sometimes, you really need to spend a good deal of time apart, while sometimes, all you want is to be together 24/7. But I think we can all agree some alone time is necessary. HOWEVER, that doesn't equate to ditching him/her for your other friends. Likewise, ditching plans you have with your other friends for him/her isn't any better (unless there's an emergency).

Note: These rules do no apply in relationships where they cheat on you for no reason other than being in a different state, then don't tell you about it but make you find out instead, all while telling you they love you. Then you have the right to royally f**k their life up.

 

I do what I want, When I want, Just because I want to do it. Perks of being single. I still have some friends with "benefits" too, now THATS a great balance. Hallmark holidays arent bad either, cuz I make it a point to get myself something very nice.

 

i totally agree with the needing time apart thihng... i don't have many people that i can hang with arround here so i spend most of my time at home with my girlfriend.. and i can honestly say we do get on each others backs more than i would like...right now we have ben arguing about the car we may be getting soon, cause she wants to learn to drive standard, but the only reason i mentioned the car to her was so that i could get the engine cause she can't drive standard, and i was going to give her my engine, but that isn't good enough now even though it was fine 3 days ago[:@][:@][:@]...