sacicons that was such great advice, as well as all the rest I got from people! I guess I realize the decision is up to me and im going to talk to Ashley today, and maybe she can help me decide as well. Thanks for all the help you all helped me to feel a lot better!

 

follow your heart ben and remember that freindship is more important man. good luck with everything and take sacicons advice as well and everything will work out for the best.

 

^ Follow ur heart!!! [&:]

aw man I'm outta here

 

i been through the same exact thing wit my ex!!! i have a psycological problem called agoraphobia(fear of public places). and its been hard for me cause i have now had it for 5 years. but its getting better.anywayz for some dumb reason,i thought then, i went into my first ever relationship..and this gurl lived in florida and im in ny,itr worked out pretty good she would come see me like once a month for like a week! and she would do everything for me. but i had feelings for this other gurl that i knew and she knew it b4 we started goin out. so when we started datin i noticed she wouldnt let me hang out wit my homegurl jessika even though my feelings for her had died down from bein with her!...so i did wut i thought was right and i broke up with my ex,i lost a good gf,but she was not about to take away a friend that has been there for me when i started goin through this.It sucks that i cant be like a normal person and work and have fun at clubs. but i take it a day at a time. thas y im start this project for the car.causei do collect disabilty but it isnt much after rent is paid. so i jus got this at home job and i got no where to spend the money accept for the car,so once i get the car ima be doin things one after another!...but ben man i know wut ur goin through...now u have to decide wut u want to do...be friends wit ur ex,or have ur gf make u have a guilty thought that ur lyin to her about still hangin out wit ur ex as friend?..do wut is right for u and ur state of mind cause stress can kill ya man,trust me!

 

i dont think anyone could have said it better then Sacs... he hit the nail on the head there

 

great advice sac's. good luck ben hope it all works out dude

 

Thanks to all of you....I really do appreciate it...im still torn though, because no matter which one I choose I break a girls heart, and no guy has the right do to that....ever.