And you also have to take into consideration is this something you want to deal with for the rest of your life? Wondering where he is, does he care, is he being faithful, does he respect me and my needs, and so on. When couples first meet, they try to impress the other with undivided attention, gifts, acts of service, respect, etc. To continue doing these things keeps the relationship fresh and strong. We all at some point take our loved ones for granted and to stop doing these things is progression toward resentment, regret, dissatisfaction, etc. 2 1/2 years is no time to stop doing those things in comparison to a lifetime. If he can't prove his love and respect for you, don't waste your time and commitment. I know it's easier said than done, but many times, its necessary.

 

The problem you are going to run into with this fellow is that his family does not like you. I know i'm gonna get crap for this, but you have to realistic. If you plan to spend the rest of your life with this guy, you HAVE to get along with his family. If his family doesn't like you then your life will not be pleasant (unless it isn't a close family, which doesn't seem to be the case). I would say to ditch him, there are many fish in the sea. However, i'm an outside and there are prolly alot of variables that i don't know about which is the reason i didn't come out and say that. Your relationship should be an open book, there is absolutly no reason that he can't take out 15 min of his day and call you when he is out of town. If he isn't calling you, then has has to be hiding something b/c that just doesn't make sense. WTF is this area code thing?

 

^^^^ You won't get flak from me about this. Family is a huge factor in a relationship working out. A lifetime with an incompatible family would prove miserable. Statistics say that couples that move out of state or away from their families actually have a higher percentage rate of staying married than those who stay close and keep family involved. On the other hand, this could prove detrimental in abusive relationships. But, in either circumstance, a couple should develop the capacity to deal with problems amongst themselves. People on the outside don't know all the factors that play into the relationship and are often biased.

 

the area code thing is, if your in a different area code any involment with the other sex is voided on a relationship level... in lamens terms it is BS, something that someone wants to use as an excuse to cheat.

and like agent said though if you don't get along with his family now, you may never get along with them. so you have to take that into consideration in a relationship. also this is the most important part, you can ask all the question you want and get all the answers from people, but they mean nothing if you don't feel the same way about it, the only one that can give the correct answer for your question is you. you may love him, but at the same time he may not be the person you are meant to be with. the only thing i can really tell you for if you should ditch him or not, is to go with your heart. it may take a bit to figure out exactly what you want to do. if you do ditch him, and you still wonder if things were meant to be, let time tell. if you are meant to be, then you are meant to be, and you will find each other in the end. i hope the best, and hope that what ever decision is made in the end, that you will be happy when all is said and done. yes i know that you wont be happy if you break up with him, but wounds heal, and when they have healed you will be happy.... good luck Amanda

 

I don't know with this go with your heart thing, you make decisions with your brain. Your heart could get you into a relationship that you really have no buisness in staying in. Like an example is women that are with abusive men, there is no logical reason why they are with these men, but since they "love" each other they stay together even though it is hurtful. Amanda's situation isn't anything close to this (at least i hope so) but thats the only example i could think of.

 

i got tired of my girl of almost 3 years a wile back...and we've been thought alot also,and because of that i couldent get myself to actually brake up because i still loved her but the other part of me was sooo annoyed with her..so i just started doing thing to kinda get the point across,
like.. not calling her ..its kinda stupid now that i think about it,i should of just told her..but thats all past now

 

the thing about it is you got understand that this isn't the first time that he has done this. he will do it agian. and is doing agian. he thinks that he will get away with and you will just take him back. not saying that was the wrong move to begin with....but that was a wrong move. I think that you should just leave a message that pretty much says don't worry ever calling me when you get back
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Uggs

 

Take a hint sweety, find yourself a real man. Didn't we just go through this not long ago? If someone doesn't appreciate your company,you're wasting your time. You said you were not scary looking the last time I answered your post. so find yourself a good man,there ARE plenty of them around. QUIT FOOLING AROUND WITH LOSERS !!!

 

Im probaly a few years older than you (29) and have been married since I was 21. Let me put a little different spin on it...The most important question is why are you not invited to go on any of these "vacations"? If its beef between you and his parents, then you are setting up for a long miserable road. It will be very difficult for your relationship to grow if you cant bond with his family and vice versa. My Dad didnt like all of my girlfriends but I still brought them around and invited them to go places with us. It lets you see how well your partner interacts with the other people you love. It lets you see how they respect you by the way they treat your loved ones. Just a few thoughts. Good luck!

 

hate to break up this lifetime special, but here are you answers.

A1: Its easier to ask forgiveness than permission. if you dont accept that answer, then how about: the same reason women do things they know will hurt their man.

A2: no, but thats how you should interpret it.

A3: no.

simple as this: people are self-centered. everythign they do is based on that one premise. realise it, accept it, and move on. if somethings causing you hurt, remove it from your life. you arent here for his fulfillment.