A girl asking?
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RE: A girl asking?
ya i would think it would be weard if a a girl asked me, its just kinda the culture you in i guess..i would always have to ask the girl, my friend and me (when we were dating) used to talk about getting married and the futur all the time..i thought it was going to happend and so did she, march would of been 3 years dating but with the going off to college and university and everything in between and going out for so long some things kinda get boring then you start noticing all the differences and then you cant get along and then you fight everyday, we broke up about 3 weeks ago or so now...but i think we both needed the brake and after her i dont think ill be dating for aleast a year, and ill be wating for the right girl to come along. oh ya, and about being creative for getting married, she loved dolphis..so what i was going to do is go to like some zoo when the big dolphin tanks ( like merine land ) and when we were looking at the dolphis from the bottom glass part, the dolphins were going to have a sign that says will you marry me and then she would turn around and i would be on 1 knee
haha, but im only 18..i dont plan of getting married till atleast like 27 lol, when i find the right girl...prob no ones going to read this, but it was good to let some feelings out
haha, but im only 18..i dont plan of getting married till atleast like 27 lol, when i find the right girl...prob no ones going to read this, but it was good to let some feelings out
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ya i would think it would be weard if a a girl asked me, its just kinda the culture you in i guess..i would always have to ask the girl, my friend and me (when we were dating) used to talk about getting married and the futur all the time..i thought it was going to happend and so did she, march would of been 3 years dating but with the going off to college and university and everything in between and going out for so long some things kinda get boring then you start noticing all the differences and then you cant get along and then you fight everyday, we broke up about 3 weeks ago or so now...but i think we both needed the brake and after her i dont think ill be dating for aleast a year, and ill be wating for the right girl to come along. oh ya, and about being creative for getting married, she loved dolphis..so what i was going to do is go to like some zoo when the big dolphin tanks ( like merine land ) and when we were looking at the dolphis from the bottom glass part, the dolphins were going to have a sign that says will you marry me and then she would turn around and i would be on 1 knee haha, but im only 18..i dont plan of getting married till atleast like 27 lol, when i find the right girl...prob no ones going to read this, but it was good to let some feelings out
ya i would think it would be weard if a a girl asked me, its just kinda the culture you in i guess..i would always have to ask the girl, my friend and me (when we were dating) used to talk about getting married and the futur all the time..i thought it was going to happend and so did she, march would of been 3 years dating but with the going off to college and university and everything in between and going out for so long some things kinda get boring then you start noticing all the differences and then you cant get along and then you fight everyday, we broke up about 3 weeks ago or so now...but i think we both needed the brake and after her i dont think ill be dating for aleast a year, and ill be wating for the right girl to come along. oh ya, and about being creative for getting married, she loved dolphis..so what i was going to do is go to like some zoo when the big dolphin tanks ( like merine land ) and when we were looking at the dolphis from the bottom glass part, the dolphins were going to have a sign that says will you marry me and then she would turn around and i would be on 1 knee
haha, but im only 18..i dont plan of getting married till atleast like 27 lol, when i find the right girl...prob no ones going to read this, but it was good to let some feelings out
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2000, I don't mean to be the bringer of depressing stories, but I was once in a position like you. I thought I was going to marry my girlfriend at the time and we talked about it all the time. Then I found out she had been cheating on me with her abusive ex who threatened to kill her if she didn't (who she had also incidentally been engaged to at the tender age of 18), and then she got hooked on crystal meth and coke and pretty much went crazy, all the while telling me she was still in love with me, blah blah blah. Anyway, my point is that you need to take some time to get your life together, get through school, get a job, and just have fun. PLEASE don't rush into anything like that while you're still so young (though I'm sure you've got a level head on your shoulders.)
I don't mean to be so lecturey
(Yes, I just made that word up, and I like it.) After all, I'm just barely 20 myself.
And to any guy here, if you let her ask, there's a good chance you will NEVER EVER hear the end of it. Just another reason for her to make fun of you. I would like to be the one to do it when the time comes, but if she does it first, that's that. I'm not complaining.
I don't mean to be so lecturey
(Yes, I just made that word up, and I like it.) After all, I'm just barely 20 myself.And to any guy here, if you let her ask, there's a good chance you will NEVER EVER hear the end of it. Just another reason for her to make fun of you.
I would like to be the one to do it when the time comes, but if she does it first, that's that. I'm not complaining.
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RE: A girl asking?
I'm 20, married, with a kid....I don't give a damn, had all the fun I needed (Got locked up multiple times in three countries, tickets, fights, other good stuff), but it's just me, I might regret it in 20 years. I almost got "married" at the great age of 16 and sure as hell I would have been miserable than.
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im with Kolhoznik. im 23 and have been married for over a year and a half. my wife was 19 when I proposed, and i was a little over 21. Sure, sometimes i think "what if" but then i think about not having her there, and i cant imagine what a wreck my life would be. i dont think age has much to do with it. its about maturity, and where you both are in your life. i know you arent planning on it in the next few days or anything, but im just saying dont rush into it, but also dont let society tell you what you will regret. hell, you might regret letting him/her go. we knew it days into our relationship, then it was a matter of months before we solidified it. im happy that you have found someone you are comfortable enough to even talk about it with, whether you end up actually going through with it with him or not. hows that?
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The way i asked my Fiance was pretty dam good. Ill just sum up the last part of the day. Well it was last Valentines day. we were in a hotel suite. She was away. I filled up the indoor hot tub with water. Rose Petals put candles everywhere. nice music. And I got 2 poems about marriage pics of our first time we took pics together our first kiss and so on. And then i laminated them and stuck them in the water. i had a towel on the side with a ring under it. So she comes in and she was shocked like whoa this is a nice bath. Adter 5 mins she felt the first laminated paper she read it. And she kept finding more and more. And then i was like there is one more (it was hidden in my pants) i put it in the water and she found it and read how i wanted to marry her i turned got the ring and asked her. She said YES!. man it was tough for me holding back tears soo much emotion dam.