PARENT'S!!!!
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RE: PARENT'S!!!!
if its legally ur car then do what u want with it. if hes not into cars and dosnt really notice that kinda stuff then he prolly wont notice if u lower the car a couple inches...
tho as hard as it may seem and how much u dont want to, try to make up with him. i got into a huge argument with my mom a couple months ago and said **** it and now im living with my dad but not to long ago i talked to my mom cuz i need her help to pay for my college tuition and all. things are still a little rough but im glad we talked about it and were getting thru it and trying to respect eachothers wishes.
tho as hard as it may seem and how much u dont want to, try to make up with him. i got into a huge argument with my mom a couple months ago and said **** it and now im living with my dad but not to long ago i talked to my mom cuz i need her help to pay for my college tuition and all. things are still a little rough but im glad we talked about it and were getting thru it and trying to respect eachothers wishes.
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When my parents are against me doing something to the car what i do is....
1.Well first I get everything needed to do the modification (parts and tools)
2.Find a friend that is willing to help to ensure it gets done that day
3.When said and done i let one of my parents drive it without telling them and when i hear them say "this car keeps getting nicer and nicer" I tell them what i did then if they get mad you can just tell them they just said they thought it was nice
1.Well first I get everything needed to do the modification (parts and tools)
2.Find a friend that is willing to help to ensure it gets done that day
3.When said and done i let one of my parents drive it without telling them and when i hear them say "this car keeps getting nicer and nicer" I tell them what i did then if they get mad you can just tell them they just said they thought it was nice
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From: new mexico, then mt, then alaska, now mt again...
RE: PARENT'S!!!!
its your choice, my parents told me to to lower my rex, but i did, and after they saw it, and i told them i did, they didnt give a ****!!! so, yea, are you still at a friends house?
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RE: PARENT'S!!!!
The fact is that even if the car is legally yours, you still have listen to your parents if you live under thier roof. If i was in your situation, i would have lowered the car without telling my dad. Its not like my dad is gonna notice, even if he did i would say that the springs must be weak and its sagging.
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One thing i alwayd do to my parents to persuade them to let me mod my car is tell them the practical benefits of it. For suspension, you could tell your dad it would improve gas mileage a bit, would last longer than stock, and be would make the car less likely to role in an accident. (feel free to embelish a bit)
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RE: PARENT'S!!!!
I have a few questions....
#1 not that it totally matters but how old are you?
2 who pays for gas and insurance...repairs?
3 who pays for food, laundry, clothes utilities etc in the house?
4 Dad still work? mom?
I'm thinking (wild guess here) that mom doesn't work and dad does. He may see a bunch of his hard earned cash going to utilities, phone , cable etc..not to mention food and clothes. Now he hears that you want to spend some cash on the car, when he may be thinking save it for college, an apt., whatever. He may not understand that you see the value in suspension, where all he sees is money wasted. Most parents don't hate their kids, they just don't comunicate, or let their kids know where their coming from.
The beating part...well...you could make something of it, but it gets ugly....chances are your dad is intimidated by you in some way and that is how he learned to cope with it. I grew up with an alcoholic who tried to beat....I fought back....at 12 years old I don't think I fought back to hard, but it was enough to stop the cycle and get him to change his ways.
Final thoughts..have a heart to heart with dad and see where the heck he is coming from....avoid getting sucked into the anger, the name calling and the fighting. Eventually you'll have to learn to cope with it as well. Leaving the situation to cool down is good, but eventually you'll have to face it....or grow up and move out on your own.[
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#1 not that it totally matters but how old are you?
2 who pays for gas and insurance...repairs?
3 who pays for food, laundry, clothes utilities etc in the house?
4 Dad still work? mom?
I'm thinking (wild guess here) that mom doesn't work and dad does. He may see a bunch of his hard earned cash going to utilities, phone , cable etc..not to mention food and clothes. Now he hears that you want to spend some cash on the car, when he may be thinking save it for college, an apt., whatever. He may not understand that you see the value in suspension, where all he sees is money wasted. Most parents don't hate their kids, they just don't comunicate, or let their kids know where their coming from.
The beating part...well...you could make something of it, but it gets ugly....chances are your dad is intimidated by you in some way and that is how he learned to cope with it. I grew up with an alcoholic who tried to beat....I fought back....at 12 years old I don't think I fought back to hard, but it was enough to stop the cycle and get him to change his ways.
Final thoughts..have a heart to heart with dad and see where the heck he is coming from....avoid getting sucked into the anger, the name calling and the fighting. Eventually you'll have to learn to cope with it as well. Leaving the situation to cool down is good, but eventually you'll have to face it....or grow up and move out on your own.[
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RE: PARENT'S!!!!
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I have a few questions....
#1 not that it totally matters but how old are you?
2 who pays for gas and insurance...repairs?
3 who pays for food, laundry, clothes utilities etc in the house?
4 Dad still work? mom?
I'm thinking (wild guess here) that mom doesn't work and dad does. He may see a bunch of his hard earned cash going to utilities, phone , cable etc..not to mention food and clothes. Now he hears that you want to spend some cash on the car, when he may be thinking save it for college, an apt., whatever. He may not understand that you see the value in suspension, where all he sees is money wasted. Most parents don't hate their kids, they just don't comunicate, or let their kids know where their coming from.
The beating part...well...you could make something of it, but it gets ugly....chances are your dad is intimidated by you in some way and that is how he learned to cope with it. I grew up with an alcoholic who tried to beat....I fought back....at 12 years old I don't think I fought back to hard, but it was enough to stop the cycle and get him to change his ways.
Final thoughts..have a heart to heart with dad and see where the heck he is coming from....avoid getting sucked into the anger, the name calling and the fighting. Eventually you'll have to learn to cope with it as well. Leaving the situation to cool down is good, but eventually you'll have to face it....or grow up and move out on your own.[]
I have a few questions....
#1 not that it totally matters but how old are you?
2 who pays for gas and insurance...repairs?
3 who pays for food, laundry, clothes utilities etc in the house?
4 Dad still work? mom?
I'm thinking (wild guess here) that mom doesn't work and dad does. He may see a bunch of his hard earned cash going to utilities, phone , cable etc..not to mention food and clothes. Now he hears that you want to spend some cash on the car, when he may be thinking save it for college, an apt., whatever. He may not understand that you see the value in suspension, where all he sees is money wasted. Most parents don't hate their kids, they just don't comunicate, or let their kids know where their coming from.
The beating part...well...you could make something of it, but it gets ugly....chances are your dad is intimidated by you in some way and that is how he learned to cope with it. I grew up with an alcoholic who tried to beat....I fought back....at 12 years old I don't think I fought back to hard, but it was enough to stop the cycle and get him to change his ways.
Final thoughts..have a heart to heart with dad and see where the heck he is coming from....avoid getting sucked into the anger, the name calling and the fighting. Eventually you'll have to learn to cope with it as well. Leaving the situation to cool down is good, but eventually you'll have to face it....or grow up and move out on your own.[
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